Thando, the 17-year-old from Isencane Lengane, has ignited a public discussion about her decision to leave her marriage. Despite being married for two years, her age has raised concerns among South Africans who feel she is too young for such a commitment.
Thando Msomi, however, asserts that she has a well-thought-out plan for her future that doesn’t involve being in a polygamous marriage or assuming the role of caretaker for a man.
Thando, who has been married to Siyacela Dlamuka since 2019, acknowledges her willingness to support him in getting his life back on track after dropping out of school in grade 9. However, she firmly states that she is not ready to become a sister wife or take on the sole responsibility of caring for the household. Siyacela’s desire for a second wife, as expressed on the Moja Love show, doesn’t align with Thando’s vision
Thando’s aspirations extend beyond marriage and domestic responsibilities. She is determined to complete her matriculation and pursue a career as a social worker. She believes this profession will allow her to help people facing difficulties, a calling she deeply values.
Her initial decision to marry at a young age was supported by social workers who wanted to ensure she was making a well-informed choice, but she now expresses doubts about her husband’s changed stance.
Despite social media appeals for her to divorce her spouse, Thando remains undecided. She recounts how she met Siyacela at a wedding, where she was a bridesmaid in 2016. They initially lived in different parts of KZN, and their decision to marry in front of the church with a six-month engagement was influenced by his father. Siyacela, however, has made it clear that he has no intention of seeking employment or returning to school, instead expressing his desire for a second wife, with both wives jointly caring for him.
Thando’s situation has prompted debates on social media, with many advising her to leave her unfaithful husband. She acknowledges that her marriage didn’t turn out as expected and emphasizes that she would never encourage her own child to marry at such a young age. The story has generated significant public interest and discussion, inviting diverse opinions on the matter.
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